Wanna hear about something you should stop ignoring? 

It’s the undercover insult. 

You know, the one- when someone follows up a rude statement with: 

“I’m just joking. I make jokes like this to everyone. Don’t take it personally. Calm down! I don’t really mean it.” 

Ok. 

You’re right. 

Degrading jokes & humor laced with insults can be your thing. 

And I won’t take it personally.

So what’s the Empowered Perspective?? 

How can you not take “funny jokes” personally?!?

Here’s the answer: Instead of making someone’s insulting jokes mean something about you, you are free to make it mean something about THEM. 

Having a good laugh at the expense of others is a symptom of inner-tension and a lack of self-compassion.

THE REALITY IS: If YOU don’t feel good when someone...