What drives people to be
Wildly Fulfilled & Incredibly Successful
is the SAME thing that causes them pain & holds them back.
That's right... There are two sides to the same coin.
So what's the tipping point?
The Way You
Hold Space for Yourself
& Create Space for Your Vision
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Perfecting that "Good on Paper" life is a result of
Conditioned Thinking and Performative Behavior.
IT'S APPROVAL ADDICTION
at its core, and,
like Every Other Addiction, there is a Cost...
and the true cost might shock you.
Are you ready for this?
Approval Addiction Costs you
the Fulfilling Life you Crave
because Your Brain is busy
chasing the High of Achievement.
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Now, LET'S CUT TO THE GOOD PART:
Addiction to Approval & Achievement is the natural consequence of being raised in a society that tells you that the path to happiness is on the other side of working hard to "Get it Right, Earn Approval, and then you'll be Rewarded."
If you feel like you experience this, it's not your fault. The typical human brain is wired to seek approval, acceptance, and acknowledgment for the hit of "happiness" that comes AFTER their efforts are recognized & applauded.
People then spend their time….
Following the Rules to bypass being scolded for being Difficult.
Following the Leader to avoid being excluded for Being Different.
Following the Directions, escape criticism for Making Mistakes.
Following the Dotted Lines to dodge the shame of Not Being Good Enough.
Checking those boxes of the "American Dream."
… only to then admit, they don't feel fulfilled. Instead, they feel lost, frustrated, and even resentful that they aren't further along.
So, I surveyed an eclectic group of women that are driven entrepreneurs, six-figure corporate earners, and passionate creatives "What do you want in life?" and here are the top answers I got:
- Financial Freedom to travel and enjoy life
- Time Freedom and Energy for hobbies that light them up
- Relationships & Friendships that are meaningful and joyful and FUN!
- A Close-Knit Family that values & respects one another
- Passion and Motivation for a career/business they genuinely enjoy
- Get Paid to be Creative and leave the rat race for good
- Feel great, energetic, and love how they look
- Desire Intimacy… we won't say EXACTLY what a few people said, but you get the point ;-)
Yes, on the surface level, that's what everybody wants: Make money, live a good life, maintain good health and share it with people we love.
Blah, Blah, Blah.
The problem is, these desires are just scratching the surface.
It's basic. It's boring, and I gotta tell you: all those "wants" for life perpetuate the BS, watered-down narrative of "How Life is Supposed to Look."
We pressed in and asked them WHY they wanted those things, hoping to see a spark or a hint of excitement. BUT NOTHING. A few people had specific answers, and a couple of people blatantly answered:
The life I have now sucks.
OKAY... but WHY does it suck?????
AND HERE IS Where the Conversation Took a Turn: we invited these women to courageously take off their masks, be straight up honest and direct about what they wanted. Here are their exact answers:
Let's Create Genuine FulfillmentOK! NOW WE'RE GETTING SOMEWHERE.
We know what is keeping them stuck, which is helpful because...
Even when all we have is A LONG-ASS LIST OF THINGS PEOPLE DON'T WANT, we can then create an EMPOWERING LIST OF WHAT THEY NEED TO TRANSFORM, CREATING SPACE FOR WHAT THEY DO WANT.
This, my friends, is THE MOMENT when the work begins and fulfillment becomes possible. This list provides the starting point for real REAL, AUTHENTIC, AND PERSONAL transformations that lead to genuine fulfillment and wild success.
Long Story Short:
People have been TAUGHT that their way to fulfillment is in their accomplishments and their status, but it’s just not true.
The results you want in life are ONLY achievable through the quality of the RELATIONSHIP you have yourself...
Not Chasing Approval & Achievement.
You simply CANNOT create the incredible results in your life, wild success in business, AND experience A LASTING sense of fulfillment in your achievements WITHOUT having done the deep work of healing your emotional stories, retraining your brain, and deconditioning yourself.
I'm Done with that StorySo, What's the Impact of Chasing Approval & Achievement?
(besides frustration & resentment)
It's time to be done with all that...
Here's a Glimpse at some of the Impacts of Coaching 1:1 through my Program
- You learn how to STOP looking outside yourself for the rules, guidelines, or assurance that you are on the right path, you are honoring your intuition.
- You will learn HOW to trust your decisions (there is a specific way to do this), you end up gaining momentum and can create massive leaps in every area of life.
- We teach you how to indulge in self-belief (without all the resistance) and invite confidence to be your driver.
- You will be supported and powerfully held accountable for your dreams and desires... even when it means you need a loving kick in the pants.
- You will gain an Empowered Community who, like you, values and pursues big ideas, and by default, feel collectively motivated from being both seen and inspired.
- When you STOP assigning your RESULTS as the reason for your fulfillment, you never HAVE to chase achievement to feel good and the short-lived emotions that come from a "win."